Fri Mar 5
Today’s cards ask us to use compassion as we extend forgiveness with others while still maintaining our personal boundaries.
Forgiveness can mean taking the higher road. It can mean releasing the expectation that you will receive an apology or any regret from the person or circumstance that caused you harm. In this way you free yourself from the burden of waiting for someone else to take action before you can begin to heal.
You may never receive an apology; indeed, the other party may not actually feel sorry for what they have done. Forgiveness doesn’t let them off the hook, it doesn’t dismiss their behavior and it doesn’t prevent them from bring held accountable. It is a personal decision you make to free yourself from anger and resentment.
Forgiveness is not an excuse for others to transgress your boundaries or continue to perpetuate harm. You can forgive someone and still not want them in your life. You can communicate boundaries and follow through when they are not honored. You can pursue justice and accountability for being hurt. You can continue to fight for your needs and for social justice while practicing forgiveness.
I think it would be spiritual bypassing to say forgiveness is necessary or even desirable in all circumstances. Righteous anger is a powerful tool for transformative change. For some, forgiveness may feel like giving up or giving in to oppression.
Overall, whether you choose to forgive and move on or whether you use that anger to fuel necessary action (or something in between) is an individual choice and depends a great deal on your cultural and spiritual beliefs. Our cards today invite an introspective look at our own capacity to forgive (ourselves and others) and how that action suits our ongoing emotional needs.
Deck: Divine Feather Messenger and Tarot of the Cat People